Why Unbelievers Hate Christians


To be a genuine Christian in this day and age is no easy task. The culture berates you at every turn for taking a stand: “How can you not be ok with same sex marriages?”; “How can you believe all that fairy tale crazy talk about an ark, David and Goliath, and resurrection?”; “How can you not see every religion as good as your own?”; “How can you be so judgmental?”

The negative rhetoric is increasing in intensity against Chrisitans as our culture turns further away from recognizing God as Sovereign and Majestic. The word of the day is “tolerance.”  They speak tolerance but behind the words we see a more sinister evil at work. Here is the common attitude of the nonbeliever and what they are really saying to Christians:

Christian, my belief or non-belief should be ok with you because I say it is. That’s all that should matter. You have to accept my beliefs as being as legitimate as your own. If not the consequences will be severe for you as I cannot tolerate your unacceptance. If you discredit my beliefs or my actions, no matter how immoral you think they are, I will  take issue with you, Christian, because I desperately need you to accept it so that I can be justified in my deception. I think tolerance is my move towards progressiveness and enlightenment but truth is I am blinded by Satan and I will fight with all I have to pressure you into feeling guilty and ultimately trying to get you to compromise your convictions. It is because I hate God and therefore, I hate you. Oh I will say I don’t but my words and actions show that I most definitely do. I will accuse you of bigotry, discirimination, and hate but it is because I cannot stand the guilt your convictions put on me. I cannot tolerate that you think you have the only right way.

 It makes me sick that you do not allow me to live like I want and be as blasphemous as I desire and it not be ok. I don’t want to be held accountable. Therefore, I will attack you in the name of tolerance until I can get you to not take a stand against me. 

I am ok if you judge some things, especially those things I do not practice. I don’t murder, so you can judge that. Stay away from any belief or immorality that I practice though. It makes me feel bad when you say it is wrong and I don’t want to feel bad so I will rally against you. I need it to be ok that I do whatever feels good to me. I don’t want to live in accordance with a higher standard or purpose. 

What I really want from you is to cower before my god, Satan. I want you to be passive and scared. I want you to be worried about being seen as judging and hateful because you stood up to me. I will do everything I can to shame you and make you feel discriminatory. I do it all because I need to be justified. I need to be ok. I don’t want to live for your God so I need you to say it is ok that I live my way. If you will do this Christian then you and I will be ok.

Christians, we cannot compromise the truth or cower in the face of pressure. We are not bigots and hateful for standing up for truth as long as we do it with love and respect. Don’t lose your voice for the truth!

25 thoughts on “Why Unbelievers Hate Christians

  1. Truth is by definition exclusive. Every religion and worldview claims to be true…therefore every religion and worldview is exclusive. To criticize Christianity for being exclusive is to not understand the nature of truth. When the world confuses truth-telling with discrimination…it is philosophically wrong. Even the Bahai faith…which claims to be all-inclusive…is exclusionary because it excludes the exclusionists…meaning all other religions and worldviews. In attempting to inclusionary…the Bahai faith ends up cutting out the essence of each religion and worldview that makes them distinctive and different.

    Christians can be lovingly bold and outspoken in their personal testimony about the truthfulness of the Bible and salvation through Jesus Christ…without being incorrectly labeled as discriminatory or bigoted. The outreach of Christianity over the last 20 centuries can be described as the opposite of being narrowly tribalistic. Christianity breaks down the “us” versus “them” prejudices when the Holy Spirit is in control.

    Excellent post. Thought-provoking. We all need to share our faith in Christ with loving conviction. Some people will listen and accept Christ.

  2. I think you got it wrong here and I will tell you why. Most people who don’t like Christians, don’t like us because we are, by and large hypocrites. They know the basics of the moral demands of Jesus Christ, to love your neighbors as yourself etc. They know following Jesus has a high moral requirement attached to it and they witness us, over and over again failing to live by those standards.

    I had an agnostic friend say to me once “If the good news is so great and life changing, how come so many Christians ignore it and don’t live by it? If His own followers won’t follow him then why should I even THINK about following Him? ”

    He had me on that one.

    So, in the face of ever increasing hostility towards Christians and Christianity, our job must be this: Follow Jesus Christ. Live the way he calls us to live. Don’t waste your time worrying about how unbelievers are living, or pointing out their sinfulness. You and I need to worry about our own short comings and believe me, at least in my case, that is enough to worry about! The problem for most of us is that it is far more rewarding to focus on someone else’s sin and telling them they need to change than it is to look at our own sin and make the changes we need to make.

    We are hypocrites. THAT is a big issue. We can’t hide behind the lame excuse that we are imperfect people and that is why it is OK for us not to really follow Jesus. We need to follow HIM and when people encounter a person who is truly following Jesus, they won’t have the same kind of problem as they do with the rest of us.

    At least, that is how I see it.

    1. While hypocrisy is an issue there are many believers who are not. If something is true we have to hold to it even if not popular. Many nonbelievers don’t want to hear it because it doesn’t justify their actions. You said to Follow Jesus. I agree. Jesus loved but he called out sin. He sent the rich, young ruler away because he wouldn’t give up his idol. Jesus lived but he didn’t compromise the message

      1. My point, really, is that we Christians by and large prefer to call out the sin of other people rather than looking at ourselves first. Of course that is a generalization and it doesn’t apply to all believers. But the fact remains: Jesus has not called us to point out other people’s sin as much as he has called us to deal with our own sin. In fact he told us to deal with the logs of sin in our own eyes, before we try and deal with the splinters in other people’s eyes.

        What I have seen over the years, is that Christians are extremely quick to call the sins of others out, but eternally slow in calling themselves out for their own short comings. We inspect other people’s lives, while failing to inspect our own.

      2. I think we agree with each other. He does tell us to get the log out of our eye but it still gives assumption we will call out the speck in someone else. I don’t disagree with you but I think my angle here has been the “baby” thrown out with the bath water. We are being bullied into staying voiceless

  3. I seem to recall a Bible verse where Paul says that he’s not talking about judging outsiders. Christians are to mind their own business, not call attention to every sin of every non-believer in their midst. Unless you want to take issue with Paul’s instruction:
    I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world. But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people.
    What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked person from among you.” – 1 Corinthians 5
    Why would you want to disobey God’s word and judge outsiders as if you were God himself? To what purpose and benefit will it serve?

    1. Jamie you are missing my point I think. I am not interested in calling out individual sins. I am talking about Christians standing firm on truth and not feeling judgmental when someone cries tolerance. If someone is in sin and wants me to say it is ok we can’t. Like me, they need the grace of God. Jesus told the adulteress woman to go and sin no more. As God’s people we have to deal honestly with sin and can’t be afraid to stand for truth in love

      1. If someone is in sin and wants you to say it’s okay, you can’t – but you aren’t calling out individual sins? I’m not sure how the two can coexist. Jesus’ sermon on the mount instructed us not to judge. He advised believers to live in peace with their neighbors, it seems to me that constantly calling out others who don’t see things the same was you do does nothing but stir up arguments and doesn’t foster a peaceful environment. I’m also familiar with the destruction that “speaking the truth in love” has wrought, families have been torn apart, friendships have ended, and the rotten fruit of anger, hatred, judgement, and bitterness seems to a common result. I remember being taught to let no unwholesome word slip from my lips and to think no unkind thoughts, because thinking of others as foolish or inferior means that I’m likely to act on those thoughts as if they are just that. But I was just reading Peter say that “God reminded me that I shouldn’t call anyone impure or unclean.” I can’t imagine many Christians today agreeing with Peter.

      2. If you share the gospel with them that means telling them to turn away from sin. If they say I am homosexual you keep from compromising the gospel by letting them know that is not acceptable to God and by coming to Him it means turning from sin. I am not interested in judging nonbelievers sins. They are already condemned. They need the gospel but this means confronting sin on coming to Christ. I am not calling out individual sins to just do it. To many Christians are wish washy in their desire to be liked and teach a cheap grace. I would never go and try and get a lost person to stop sinning. I would point them to Jesus and be honest with them that he sets them free from sin. This means dealing honestly with sin

  4. I think the best way to shine light is to be transparent. No pun intended. If we own our shortcomings and apologize when needed, we aren’t showing weakness, we are providing opportunities for grace to be offered and received. That is a thumbnail photo of the Father’s grace. If an unbeliever doesn’t understand that we aren’t perfect, it’s on them, not us. When opportunities to speak about sin are presented, we must remember our own imperfection as we speak and be heartbroken about ALL sin, not just the unbeliever’s rebellion. We must also point out what God says about sin, not what we think. The unbeliever’s argument should be with the Truth of God and His word, not with us. Stand strong, but humbly, brother!

  5. I do not believe that most non-Christians “hate” Christians, we simply hate the discriminatory, bigoted, intolerant attitude and behavior of some conservative Christians. I have found the majority of Christians to be very kind, compassionate people.

    I personally hope that one day, ALL supernatural beliefs will disappear. I believe that a worldview based on facts not on “faith” will be better for everyone.

  6. Hi Dax,

    Yes, I think we can disagree without being disagreeable. I would like to (politely) challenge you on one of your comments, however. You said: “I [a non-believer speaking] cannot stand the guilt your convictions put on me.”

    How do you know that we non-believers feel a sense of guilt for not agreeing with some of your positions?

    1. I could be wrong as it is my opinion. My opinion is that the heat at which many nonbelievers come at me in a strong sense of defensiveness is a sign that they fight feeling the guilt of the possibility they might be wrong. I know this from my own experience when I am defensive. My defensiveness comes from some layer of guilt. As Shakespeare said, “Thou doest protest too much.” It is my opinion of course.

  7. That is certainly possible, but isn’t it true that a Muslim blogger could make the same claim:

    “Why do unbelievers hate Muslims? Answer: Unbelievers (Christians, Jews, Hindus, atheists, agnostics, etc.) hate Muslims because they cannot stand the guilt that the truths of Allah, spoken to his holy prophet in the Koran, forces upon their evil consciences.”

    1. Sure they could. In fact this is the one thing Christians have in common with Islam, a divine moral law. I don’t believe Islam is correct but a distortion of the one true God. They would say same about Christianity of course. Where we are unique is we believe in the Holy Spirit, whom we believe takes truth and uses it to convict or judge. He is God so he has the right to do both. When we speak truth then we trust God to use it to pierce hearts. Many rebel against that and thus the defensiveness and hate. Now with that said I believe many “Christians” share truth wrongly. They do it out of hate and condescension. They don’t represent the ideal here in which I speak

  8. Yes, if the Holy Spirit exists, he has the power to do the things you mention.

    As an unbeliever, I would encourage Christians to evaluate the evidence that an invisible “spirit” being lives inside your body, talks to you, and “moves” you to do things. Unless you are able to actually hear an audible voice or see a visible being, isn’t it entirely possible that the perceptions you experience of “the Holy Ghost/Spirit” are simply yourself, talking to yourself? Humans talk to themselves all the time.

    1. Of course. We believe in the Holy Spirit not primarily from experience but from the Scriptures. The Spirit is mysterious in its movements and I do think there are times we might mistake our own desires and thoughts as being the Spirit. I have seen some amazing things though that I could not explain from a scientific perspective.

  9. Muslims claim to experience “amazing things” too, but I doubt you believe that their experiences are due to the supernatural workings of the Holy Spirit.

    I’m probably getting off subject, so stop me anytime you like, but here is how I see your argument:

    1. Non-believers “hate” Christians due to the guilt they experience; a guilt created by the conviction of the Holy Spirit.

    2. You know that the Holy Spirit exists and that he convicts sinners of their sin, creating a sense of guilt, because the Christian Scriptures say so.

    3. You know the Christian Scriptures are correct based on the “amazing” experiences you have perceived in your life, although you will probably admit that persons of other religions and persons of no religion claim to have similar amazing experiences.

    Experts say that personal perceptions are very unreliable as determinants of truth.

    1. Well more than just my experience with scripture. I have studied it academically. I have a DMin from Samford and was a Greek major in University, studying the original language. It is more than personal perception as I have spent most of my lifetime studying this. You probably believe Caesar existed but we only have ten documents considered ancient with his name on it. We have 25,000 plus fragments found that are considered ancient regarding the scriptures. There is faith involved that the word is God’s voice but no doubt the scriptures were written when they say they were

  10. I certainly agree that we have many, many copies and fragments of copies of first century documents which talk about Jesus of Nazareth. I am not a mythicist. I believe that there is sufficient evidence to believe that Jesus was a real historical person. But even if there were MILLIONS of copies and fragments of copies of first century documents which talk about Jesus, none of that proves any of the supernatural claims of Christianity. Specifically, those millions of copies and fragments of copies do not prove the existence of an invisible ghost/spirit, called the Holy Spirit. In actuality, the only evidence to support your claim of the existence of a holy, (invisible) ghost, who convicts non-Christians and makes them feel guilty, is alleged eyewitness testimony. I say “alleged” because the majority of New Testament scholars (the majority of whom self identify as Christians) reject the claim that eyewitnesses or the associates of eyewitnesses wrote the Gospels, the primary source of the Christian belief system. In fact, the majority of NT scholars believe that the Gospels were written many years after the alleged event, by non-eyewitnesses, living in lands far away from Palestine. How can anyone, therefore, be certain of their accuracy?

    Ask yourself this question: If a report came to you that thirty years ago, in the highlands of Guatemala, a man turned into a volcano after eating magic beans, would you believe this story? I doubt it. But what if FIVE THOUSAND Guatemalan villagers claimed (and those that are still alive are still claiming) this amazing transformation occurred right in front of their very eyes? Would you believe it then? I doubt it. But what if these five thousand villagers were willing to be tortured and killed before recanting their eyewitness testimony? Would you believe it then? I doubt it. Even if you personally went to Guatemala and interviewed several of the alleged eyewitnesses, I highly doubt that they would ever convince you that a man turned into a lava-spewing volcano after eating magic beans! Why not?

    Answer: Eyewitness testimony is NOT sufficient for such a preposterous claim!

    So why should we non-Christians today believe a similarly preposterous, supernatural claim about a three-day-brain-dead first century corpse coming back to life, eating lunch with his former followers, and later levitating into the clouds, or, that an invisible ghost who allegedly once impregnated a Jewish virgin now lives inside your body, based only on circa FIVE HUNDRED alleged eyewitnesses???

    You see, eyewitness testimony may be sufficient for car accidents and murder trials, but it is NOT sufficient for preposterous, out-of-this-world, supernatural claims.

    So isn’t it more likely, Dax, that the reason many non-Christians “hate” some of the behaviors and attitudes of SOME Christians is NOT because an invisible ghost has made us feel guilty, but simply because we disapprove of intolerant, superstition-based behavior?

    1. No I don’t agree. I appreciate you recognizing Jesus as historical and as I said earlier i don’t believe the historical evidence is enough to claim it as word of God. That comes by faith, which I am supporting. I would remind you that you entered my realm here. I didn’t force you. Anyone who believes what I am writing chooses too. I didn’t come to you pushing faith. I don’t push faith. If you push it then it is not faith any longer. My message here was to believers to stand strong for the faith without compromise and to many of my friends who have given testimony of being berated by non believers that there is more to their protestation than what appears on the surface. I am glad you are here Gary and I can’t nor would try to “talk you into faith” because I cannot. I have studied what is empirical and have placed my ultimate hope in the belief that Christ is Lord.

    2. And as far as though NT scholars you refer to, I have studied them for years and many hold to the apostolic writers and see them as being written within 20-40 years of Jesus. It is not hard to find liberal theologians out there who agree with you but they are in the minority

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